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The day Lil B was hospitalised

@ 1 year 2 months 1 day

It took me more than a year to have the courage to get this post up. It wasn’t until I was spring cleaning the pictures on my database that I saw those pictures that shattered my heart even till this date. It’s still very heart wrenching looking at them.

On the 12 Mac 2010, lil B woke up with a slight fever. He had been fussing throughout the night before and refused to be nursed but other than that he was all fine. So I didn’t suspect anything unusual.

After Daddy and Ryan left for work and school respectively, I noticed lil B’s face was a little flushed. I touched his forehead and it does feel a little warm. So I whipped out the thermometer and true enough he spotted a temperature of 38.1C. I went balistic and quickly whisked him off to the paed (Dr Yek). Dr examined Darren and told me he seemed fine. Perhaps he had gotten the flu bug somewhere. I was very worried as I heard babies below 2 months don’t get a fever. Despite Dr Yek’s assurance that  even babies as young as 1 month can get a fever, I was skeptical. Who wouldn’t especially after what lil B had been through when he was born, I was worried. I really couldn’t take any risk. I could really faint any minute then.

I brought lil B home and fed him paracetomal. I sms-ed lil B’s other paed (let’s call him Dr I) at Gleneagles. He had given me his phone number and asked me to sms him should I have any issues handling ‘special baby’ – ie babies who required hospitalisation upon birth. So I texted him and told him we won’t be dropping in the next day for lil B’s schedule vaccination. He replied and asked me to pop by immediately as babies below 2 months don’t get fever.

Needless to say, I drove like a mad woman (no, wasn’t speeding but mind was sure clouded by all the what ‘if’s) and reached his clinic around 3pm. Hubby took time off and we went to see Dr I together. Lil B was stripped naked and a thermometer was shoved under his arm for measurement. He had no fever. But this Dr I somehow managed to convince us we need to admit lil B for observation bla bla bla… He told us he will run some tests to make sure baby’s okay. We agreed. How STUPID we were for agreeing to admit a baby who had no fever and perfectly fine to a series of torture. Don’t get me wrong. Dr I is a good doctor but overly cautious. He want to be 100000000000 % sure baby’s fine. No amount of test is too many for him.

So there we were. Admitted lil B to Gleneagles on the 12 Mac 2010 (Friday). We went to the E&A to have an IV line inserted into lil B’s tiny hand (vein). Broke my heart when I hear his cries. Dem Dem them!

 

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Mac10 - He was all fine but he does have a slight fever 37.9C around 5pm the day he was admitted. Dr I convinced us to start antibiotic as he suspect it could be infant meningitis which the symptoms are not easily visible. We agreed. With that agreement, meaning he has to stay in the hospital for at least 5 days to complete the course.

 

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Sobs sobs...

 

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By the 3rd day, we asked for home leave. Hate the hospital, hate the smell, hate the sight of doctors and nurses. The anitibiotics... It took an hour each time to complete.

 

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I know.. you're asking mommy why the heck you're in a hospital when you're all fine. Mommy and Daddy were so foolish to listen to the doctor. We should have monitor instead of agreeing to the antibiotics course.:(

 

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Eventhough on home leave, I stayed in the hospital from 9am to about 10pm everyday so lil B could complete 3 doses of antibiotics aday. Siow rite. Flushing a lil baby

 

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On the 4th day, they had to insert a new line. Unfortunately they (the nurses, about 3 of them) can’t seem to find a vein on lil B's other hand (don’t ask me how many tries they attempted). After many failed attempts by the nurses, they got a doc to insert the line on his leg. Why can't they just get a doctor at the first place. He's a tiny baby for haven's sake!

 

On the 6th day, everyone’s patience were running thin. I let it out numerous times on the doc. I just could not hold it. I asked for his expert advise but he refused to give me a satisfactory answer. He said he can’t be sure when I asked him “DO YOU THINK BABY’S SICK BY JUDGING FROM YOUR OBSERVATION AND PHYSICAL EXAMINATION? DO YOU THINK BABY’S SICK WHEN HIS TESTS ALL CAME OUT NEGATIVE? DO YOU THINK BABY NEED TO STAY ON 10 DAYS ANTIBIOTICS WHEN HE’S PERFECTLY FINE?” He can’t provide me with a definite answer. Scardy cat doctor? Maybe. He’s such a chicken. Maybe he’s worried I’ll sue him for his wrong diagnosis.

That night hubby and I made the most important decision for lil B. We have decided to go against the doctor and will have him discharged by tomorrow (7th day). Prior discharge, the doc came in to check on the baby for one last time in the morning. Despite baby looking all good and cheery, he gave me the look that I’m making such a big mistake in my life for discharging baby. And guess what, he summonded for baby to take one last ‘salt’ test just to make sure. Apparently in lil B had a slightly higher salt level in the body. When I asked him if it’s really necessary and if it’s life threatening for salt level to be high. He said NO but insisted better to have a clean bill prior discharge. Fine. We agreed and lil B cried for one last time in the Children’s Ward.

 

We paid the hefty bill, no insurance btw (about RM7000 for 2 nights’ stay + 5 days of home leave, medication etc. Well, to be fair to the doc, his fees were only about 15% of the total bill paid. So I guess he truly wants the best for baby but I totally disagree with the way he function. As a doc, he could really offer more rather than succumbing baby to all the tests in the world)

A year after the incident, I’m glad baby is one healthy baby. He’s rarely sick. probably caught some minor flu big here and there from the brother but nothing biggie and he’s all good. So did we make the right decision then to discharge him on the 7th day? Mmm.. yes and no. No because we should have asked for discharge on the 5th day!

 

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My precious baby who loves medicine to bits (unlike kor kor). No, he wasn't drinking medicine there. It was water in the syringe.

 

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My two boys. Please grow up strong and healthy. We love you both to bits and pieces.

 
One very difficult post to write indeed….

The first two months

@ 2 months 1 day

Everyone couldn’t be more happier now that the worse seemed to over. Lil b is finally home and everyone gets a mission to adjust and adapt a lifestyle with a newborn at home. We all have to learn to speak softly, play moderately, the interupted meals, the baby’s cries, etc. 

After what lil b had been thru is his first 7 days of life, we were sure protective. It was mostly Ryan whom we had to control and manage.

Ryan loves his lil b to bits. He would get teary eyed when the CL carried lil b away for naps/sleep. He’s such a loving kor kor; with only the occassional over the board affections which he’s still learning to adjust.  We are extremely grateful for that despite us being protective over lil b, Ryan showed no signs of jealousy. When we sounded him for patting the lil b too hard on the head, he would oblige and slow down. When we ticked him off for being too loud when lil b was sleeping, most of the time he would lower his volume. There were occasions when he would just slip into a rebel, irritating everyone and breaking all the forbidden rules. There was a time when I was tucking him in bed at night when he said to me ‘Mom, having a baby is not so fun’. I chuckled at his statement. I guess reality finally striked him and he finally realises he’s no longer the king of the house.

A week after lil b was discharged, we brought him back to the paed for check up. Iwas pleased to know the trauma lil b experienced the week before, he gained some really good weight (3.9kg @ 2 weeks; +0.5kg in a week).

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The 1st month

It’s always not easy to pick a name, not to mention a good name. Traditionally MIL would give us a few options after seeking some advise from sifu. The names that were initially given for us to choose were so so.. and I really mean, just so so. So MIL went back to the sifu and was given another variation. After pondering with the limited options available, we finally decided on one. Likewise with Ryan’s name, mommy came up with the spelling. I’m so proud of myself. Imagine they have to live with that name the rest of their life. What an accomplishment. So on the 7th Feb we finally register lil b’s name with the Jabatan Pendaftaran negara at Maju Junction.

Full Moon

We had the full moon ceremony on the 11th Feb. It was just a simple ceremony. Daddy was at work and it was just the grandparents, kor kor, me and the CL. Customary it’s a tradition to trim a bit of the newborn’s hair. I remember daddy was the one who did it for Ryan 4 years ago. This time round, mommy was given the honour.

After prayers and a short walk outside the house (part of the tradition), everybody got back to our normal routine. We should have had it the day before when daddy was around. Somehow without daddy around, I felt the ceremony kinda incomplete.

After CL left on the 12 Feb (she had requested to go earlier for CNY) I took over the full mommy role. Lil b was barely a month old. It’s a totally different experience. I remember I had enjoyed a complete two months confinement during Ryan’s days. With the CL around the entire two months, I only started taking care of Ryan on the 3rd month and that not even full time as I was still a FTWM then. This time round, my confinement period was shortened to literally only 3 weeks.

 It was such astounding experience caring for a baby. I didn’t know they can groan and whimper so much; or maybe after 4 years I have already forgotten how to care for a newborn. It was tough during the initial weeks especially the night feeds. I would wake up at lil b’s every single swish. Sometimes it would be nothing but a fluke shot and he would go back to sleep after a few pats. Other times, his whim signals his desire for a milky fix. It would normally take about an hour or so before I could go back to my sweet dreams. Eventhough he hardly cries, he is sure a loud  groaner. Most of the time once lil b make his gesture middle of the night, I would pick him up, go to the next room, nurse him, burp him, change his diaper and go back to my own room once he asleep. He’s much better now. He no longer groans nor whimpers as much. He also doesn’t pass explosive gas as often as he did during the first month. He’s definitely growing up… *smile*

Chinese New Year

Lil b had  his official first trip outside home (actually he had been to nearby Jusco earlier) on the first day of CNY when we went to Uncle’s place to pai nin. All the relatives gave the same comment and that lil b has an uncanny resemblance of daddy; to which I am not surprised. Just like his kor kor, he definitely has daddy’s eyes; the unmistakable single eyelid, luckily not sepet.

When it comes to lil b’s source of milk, he takes on the combo meal (BM, formula, EBM) and we started training him with the bottle since he was back from hospital. But because this baby is such a boobie baby, giving him the bottle is never a success without a ‘battle’. He would twist and turn his head, wail pitifully until I give in. The same happened on the 2nd day of CNY. We were having dimsum at MO Hotel when lil b needed a fix. Despite all efforts he just turned a blind on the bottle. Such a stubborn boy. I was so disturbed that I didn’t even get to eat their famous durian pancake. At that moment, I just want to get out of there and be home. KL, simply annoyingly baby unfriendly.


@ MO Hotel. He was a week shy from 1 month old. So tiny!!!


With cousin Ni Hui

Nappy Rash

Ryan had bad nappy rash when he was younger. Little did I expect lil b’s nappy rashes were much more serious than Ryan’s. You could see bloody red patches on his bottom. I read from the book, rashes that appears near the anus are an indication of allergy to protein. I quickly cut down my milk intake (I was taking Anmum Lacta) and his formula (he was on Similac). It was futile. I put him on cloth diaper and clean his bottom with clean water after every diaper change. Again, the efforts showed no remarkable improvement. On the  8th Mac I brought him to Dr Yek. He was prescribed some medication and moisturiser. We also changed his formula from Similac to Isomil. I fed him more formula in the next few days so his poop would be less watery. Combined with the cream, it worked miraculously. His bottom is finally rash free and is silky smooth. :D

Taken @ 1 month plus