@ 2 months 1 day
Everyone couldn’t be more happier now that the worse seemed to over. Lil b is finally home and everyone gets a mission to adjust and adapt a lifestyle with a newborn at home. We all have to learn to speak softly, play moderately, the interupted meals, the baby’s cries, etc.Â
After what lil b had been thru is his first 7 days of life, we were sure protective.Â It was mostly Ryan whom we had to control and manage.
Ryan loves his lil b to bits. He would get teary eyed when the CL carried lil b away for naps/sleep. He’s such a loving kor kor; with only the occassional over the boardÂ affections which he’s still learning to adjust.Â We are extremely grateful for that despite us being protective over lil b, Ryan showed no signs of jealousy. When we sounded him for patting the lil b too hard on the head, he would oblige and slow down. When weÂ ticked him off for being tooÂ loud when lil bÂ was sleeping, most of the time he wouldÂ lower his volume. There were occasions when he would just slip into aÂ rebel, irritating everyone and breaking all the forbidden rules. There was a time when I was tucking him in bed at night whenÂ he said to me ‘Mom, having a baby is not so fun’. I chuckledÂ at hisÂ statement.Â I guess reality finally striked him and he finallyÂ realises he’s no longer the king of the house.
A week after lil b was discharged, we brought him back to the paed for check up. Iwas pleasedÂ to know the trauma lil b experienced the week before, he gained some really good weight (3.9kg @ 2 weeks; +0.5kg in a week).
TheÂ 1st month
It’s always not easy to pick a name, not to mention a good name. Traditionally MIL would give us a few options after seeking some advise from sifu. The names that were initially given for us to chooseÂ were so so.. and I really mean, just so so. So MIL went back to the sifu and was given another variation. After pondering with the limited options available, we finally decided on one. Likewise withÂ Ryan’s name, mommy came up with the spelling. I’m so proud of myself. Imagine they have to live with that name the rest of their life. What an accomplishment. So on the 7th FebÂ we finally register lil b’s name with the Jabatan Pendaftaran negara at Maju Junction.
We had the full moon ceremony on the 11th Feb. It was just a simple ceremony.Â Daddy was at work and it was just the grandparents, kor kor, me and the CL. Customary it’s a tradition to trim a bit of the newborn’s hair. I rememberÂ daddy was the one whoÂ did it for Ryan 4 years ago. This time round,Â mommy was given the honour.
After prayers and a short walk outside the house (part of the tradition), everybody got back to our normal routine. We should have had it the day before whenÂ daddy was around. Somehow without daddy around, I felt the ceremony kindaÂ incomplete.
After CL left on the 12 Feb (she had requested to goÂ earlier for CNY) I took over the full mommy role. Lil b was barely a month old. It’s a totally different experience. I remember I had enjoyed a complete two months confinement during Ryan’s days. With the CL around the entire two months, I only started taking care of Ryan on the 3rd month and that not even full time as I was still a FTWM then. This time round, my confinement period was shortened to literally only 3 weeks.
Â It was such astounding experience caring for a baby. I didn’t know they can groan and whimper so much; or maybe after 4 years I have alreadyÂ forgotten how to care for a newborn.Â It was tough during the initial weeks especially the night feeds.Â I would wake up at lil b’s every singleÂ swish.Â Sometimes it would be nothing but aÂ fluke shot and he would go back to sleep after a few pats. Other times, his whim signals his desire forÂ a milkyÂ fix. It would normally take about an hour or so before I could go back to my sweet dreams. Eventhough he hardly cries, he is sure a loudÂ Â groaner. Most of the time once lil b make his gesture middle of the night,Â I would pick him up, go to the next room, nurse him, burp him, change his diaper and go back to my own room once he asleep. He’s much better now. He no longer groans nor whimpers as much. He also doesn’t passÂ explosive gas as often as he did during the first month. He’s definitely growing up… *smile*
Chinese New Year
Lil b hadÂ his officialÂ first trip outside home (actually he had been to nearby Jusco earlier) on the first day of CNY when we went to Uncle’s place to pai nin.Â All the relativesÂ gave the same comment and thatÂ lil b has an uncanny resemblance of daddy; to which I am not surprised. Just like his kor kor, he definitely has daddy’s eyes; the unmistakable single eyelid, luckily not sepet.
When it comes to lil b’s source of milk, he takes on the combo meal (BM, formula, EBM)Â and we started training him withÂ the bottle since he was back from hospital. But because this baby is such a boobie baby, giving him the bottle is never a success without a ‘battle’. He would twist and turn his head, wail pitifully until I give in. The same happened on the 2nd day of CNY. We were having dimsum at MO Hotel when lil b needed a fix. Despite all efforts he just turned a blind on the bottle. Such a stubborn boy. I was so disturbed that I didn’t even get to eat their famous durian pancake. At that moment, I just want to get out of there and be home. KL, simply annoyingly baby unfriendly.
@ MO Hotel. He was a week shy from 1 month old. So tiny!!!
With cousin Ni Hui
Ryan had bad nappy rash when he was younger. Little did I expect lil b’s nappy rashes were much more serious than Ryan’s. You could see bloody red patches on his bottom. I read from the book, rashes that appears near the anus are an indication of allergy to protein. I quickly cut down my milk intake (I was taking Anmum Lacta)Â and his formula (he was on Similac). It was futile. I put him on cloth diaper and clean his bottom with clean water after every diaper change. Again, the efforts showed no remarkable improvement. On the Â 8th Mac I brought him to Dr Yek. He was prescribed some medication and moisturiser. We also changed his formula from Similac to Isomil. I fed him more formula in the next few days so his poop would be less watery. Combined with the cream, it worked miraculously. His bottom is finally rash free and is silky smooth.
Taken @ 1 month plus