Category Archives: 34 months

@ 34 months

@ 34 months 3 weeks 6 days 

Quick Updates:

- Ryan started Nursery 1 when he was 33 months.

- When I asked Ryan who is his favourite teacher, he would answer Mrs Goh without hesitation. Unfortunately Mrs Goh has moved on and no longer teaching the class. She is replaced by Ms Sng, another likeable teacher. Ryan also like Liang Laotsi but due to communication gap (Liang Laotsi teaches Mandarin in class) inevitably most of the kids are closer with the English teacher. 

- I normally pack some food for Ryan’s snack time considering his fussiness when it comes to his food intake. However, after 3 months in school, we are witnessing a great improvement in Ryan’s appetite. He is definitely more adventurous with food now than he had ever been. He is still picky at times but at least he is willing to try. I’m very pleased.

- Ryan’s concentration also improves. He is now able to do simple tracing exercise. He could use his magic pointer (index finger) to follow the outline of shapes and patterns without assistance. His favourite home activity for now is the maze activity. He could complete the exercise using his magic pointer or a color pen. I like this exercise as it’s very good for his brain training. Makes him think. LOL. There are plenty of sources on NickJunior, Cartoon Network websites.

- Ryan is also improving on his ability to join the dots. He absolutely loves this activity. Normally I would outline the dots and Ryan would complete the exercise by joining the dots I drew. We’re currently doing this on a piece of small white board. So there are a lot of drawing, erasing, drawing, erasing again and again. It’ll definitely be less repitition once I get my hands on a laminator.

- Temperament is still very good. *touch wood*. Generally Ryan’s a happy baby and always put on a smiley face which is very pleasing. ryan loves school. Something which I’m extremely thankful as it makes the whole morning wake-up rituals much more easier. At 7.15am everyday, all I need is to turn on his favourite Backyardigan show on Nickelodeon. He’ll spend the next 15 minutes drinking milk and watching his show while the parents get ready.

All said, Ryan is still very very much a mommy’s boy. Whenever Ryan misbehaves all I have to do is tell him I’m angry and show him my angry face. Most of the time, he will stop his antics. These days, I don’t have to tell him I’m angry. When I call out his name, he could tell from the expression on my face. That is enough to freak Ryan out. he would run to me and start begging for forgiveness. Fierce huh… 

- Despite his occassional misbehaviours, Ryan is always a loving baby with great affections for others. He’s very generous with hugs and kisses. Not sure if it’s a good thing. He would go around hugging and kissing his teachers and classmates. Those who are more reserved are terrified of him (account from the teachers). He’s also quite a charmer (sweet talker) especially to his mommy, that’s me *blushed*. At home, it’s a normal scene for Ryan running after me saying “mommy, I miss you a lot a lot a lot” eventhough I was just gone for a short while to the toilet or when I was lazing around in my own room. During school dismissal, he would run to me, hug me and ask ‘mommy, why you so long. I miss you‘. Ultra sweeeeettttt…. ho lum er…!!

- Ryan is very into cars eversince he watched the Disney/Pixar Cars movie. He’s not only into the Cars characters but also cars in real life. He can now name most of the cars we see on the road by looking at the logo which includes BMW, Mercedes, Honda, Toyota, Mazda, Mitsubishi, Nissan and Audi. For BMW, he is able tell its brand by looking at the car design alone.

- Ryan is still taking Isomil (mix one scoop of Pediasure). He drinks much less milk now that he goes school in the morning. In a day, he takes about 3 – 4 feeings of 5/6 oz milk.

- He is almost potty trained and diaperless in school and at home except sleep time and during long journey outings.

- He’s no longer a fan of Ultraman. All his 20 odd Ultraman(s) and monsters are now sitting in the corner collecting dust. His current favourite is Toys Story and Disney/Pixar Cars.

All pictures taken on last day of school before term breaks, Friday, 13.03.09 (inconjunction with Mrs Goh’s farewell)

Class photo (another 2 girls were not in picture)


It’s obvious who is Ryan’s best friend here


Ryan with his arms over Verlynne, always the first person Ryan would ask for the minute we reach the school


Ryan and Sarah. Absolutely cute girl and I love love love her hair.

After the incident….

@ 34 months 1 week

I was really upset that day. I do not know I was feeling upset because I was embarassed, shocked, or simply could not accept the reality. It’s a puzzle, still an unsolved one, trying to understand what’s really in this kiddo’s mind.   

I went out to Ngee Ann after tucking Ryan in for his nap. A couple hours of retail therapy works wonder, I felt much better. I came home with more sane and better mood. So I sat Ryan in front of me and started my first ‘counselling’. There were many other sessions like this eversince that day to remind him not to echo his actions.

It was not easy to get a 2 year plus kid to tell you exactly what happened. It requires a lot of unconditional patience, in which, I am shamefully lacking of this positive trait in me. From our conversations (more like Q&A session), Ryan implied he was merely ‘playing‘ with his classmate. Another time he said he was merely trying to ‘sayang‘ his classmate. So I really hope he did not do what he did to hurt his classmates and his actions were simply because he could not control his level of strength well enough thus indirectly hurting them.

I did punish Ryan for what he did. No. I am not a fan of corporal punishment so lucky him, no cane, no smacking ie no pain for this fella. Instead I took away his fav toys, hid them aside and told him I’m giving them away to his friends.  The next day, I made him say sorry. I even made him hand the pressies to his friends. Ryan was visibly anxious, more like worried to me. He kept asking what’s inside the wrapper. (I have bought the toys at Ngee Ann yesterday but I told him it was his toy inside the wrapper). 

Ryan did not resist. I explained he hurt his friends so he must ‘do something‘ to say sorry. He handed the pressies readily. No resistance and to my surprise he even gave a hug to one of the classmates and said sorry, a gesture which I never requested of him. Oh-so-sweet right? But guess what. As much as I was pleased with his gesture, again, this boy of mine hugged his friend so hard causing his classmate to lost his balance and almost fell. Haiz…..

I continue my effort reminding Ryan not to touch his classmates; many many times a day. Be it during meal time, play time, story time, shower, toilet, in the car, in the school compound, I brought in various examples and scenarios to instill the morale of NO TOUCHING. It got up till the extent, I find myself so ‘ngam ngam chum chum-ing’ my boy all day. Like a wicked witch :(

So far he has not done anything as aggresive as what he did that day. I’m very sure he knows he’s not supposed to touch his friends (thanks to my nagging.. I don’t even need to complete my sentence now…. )

Whether it’s intentional or not, the fact is Ryan did hurt his classmates. Kids nowadays are much brighter. Thanks to all the omegas 3, 6, 9, DHA, AHA, what not, I noticed, paying lip service is no longer good enough to deter bad behaviour from reoccuring. So hopefully making him part with his fav toys would make him aware the real price to pay as a consequences of  misbehaviour.   

Ps: It is actually quite hard for me to swallow that Ryan has such aggresive trait in him since he is a kid that goes around telling me ‘he miss me’, ‘he loves me’ even when I was just out of his sight for 15 minutes because I was in the shower. Haiz.. anyway.. I am still keeping the fav toys supposedly given away. LOL.

@ Clarke Quay. The shirt Ryan was wearing is his favourite shirt. He wants to wear it everyday!

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