@ 33 months 3 weeks 5 days
For the second time this week (and today is only Wednesday) Ryan’s class teachers told me this boy of mine had been aggresive towards his friends. The first time happened on Monday. Ryan had pushed his friend down because this friend apparently used his hand to deliberately covered Ryan’s eyes repitively during story time. Apparently Ryan tried pushing his friend’s hand away several times and when all his efforts failed, Ryan decided to push his friend causing his friend to fall. Sigh…
Today I went to pick Ryan up as usual during dismissal. The teacher saw me and quickly came over to speak with me. Actually from far I know something must be amiss. I could tell from the teacher’s face. It’s just a matter of what went wrong.
According to the teacher’s feedback Ryan had grasped his friend’s neck causing the friend to choke a little. I was stunned, flabbergasted, stoned, speechless and seriously, I thought I would faint at that minute. What??????? That’s SERIOUS!!!! The teachers said Ryan was eyeing a trainset Z (the victim) was holding. Since they only have 5 sets, the students were taught to share. When it was finally Ryan’s turn, Z had refused to let go. Some snatching ensued and subsequently one thing led to another. I’m not finding excuse but err.. I can’t stop to wonder how this could happen right under the teacher’s nose? Haiz…
Anyway, back to Ryan. All along Ryan has never demonstrated any of such violent behaviour at home eventhough we have noticed an obvious change in behaviour in him eversince the biting incident last week. Since that unlucky day he has become more short fused and obviously overly protective over his belongings but apart from these we see no other symptoms that alarmed us. I really want to ‘pengsan’ (faint) now.. :(
Ryan can be quite possesive during play time but generally he’s quite well mannered and a shy boy all along. I’m not sure if the incident has affected him so bad emotionally that he now realised the only way to survive is to protect himself and the only way to protect his interest is to turn bully button on hin him (note: all names incl the word ‘bully’ is just a name given to protect the parties involved. It has no relation to any other incidents or 3rd parties outside this incident).
In less than a week my boy has turned from being bullied to a bully. He’s now taking his beauty nap. I am so ready with all the bullets for punishment time later! I really want to know why the sudden change of nature in him. Wish me luck.