Category Archives: 60 months

Here and there…. (Ryan)

Conversations with Ryan boy…

I have prohibited him from using ‘bad’ words such as ‘die’, ‘stupid’, and of course no bad languages at home.
I can’t recall how it happened but I think we were in a conversation about saving water in the toilet. He claimed I was wasting water for allowing the water to run from the tap.

Ryan: Mommy, 你想死 ar?? (Nǐ xiǎng sǐ)
Mommy: Eh.. 你不能说死 (Nǐ bùnéng shuō sǐ)
Ryan: 不是 ah,我说你的头发想死 (Bù she, wǒ shuō nǐ de tóufǎ xiǎng sǐ)
Mommy: Huh…???

Last week after I picked Ryan up from school, he said this to me in the car

Mommy : What did you do in school today?
Ryan: We learn and did some art and craft
Mommy: Oh, what craft did you make?
Ryan: I cannot tell
Mommy: Oh why cannot tell? No, must tell me NOW
Ryan: We made a card. It’s for Mother’s Day
Mommy: Oooo….
Ryan: But you don’t tell Teacher okay… It’s a surprise (his voice sounded a little disappointed)
Mommy: (Not wanting to upset him) Don’t worry. It’s still a surprise right because I still do not know how the card looks like
Ryan: (need assurance) So it’s still a surprise? Because you don’t know yet
Mommy: Yes… my dear.

Edit to add: This is how the card looks like

During the time when I had tonsil stone

Ryan: Mommy.. does dream come true?
Mommy: You mean ‘wish’?
Ryan: Yes
Mommy: It depends what you wished for
Ryan: O-o-o
Mommy: Why? What wish did you make? (At the back of my mind, I was expecting him to say toys, more play time, etc)
Ryan: Mommy… I wish that you will recover fast. You will be healthy always
(I have been scaring him that I suffered from tonsil stone because he made me angry when he misbehave)
Mommy : If you are only allowed one wish, would you wish for more toys or for mommy to get well soon?
Ryan: How about both?
Mommy: No.. choose one only
Ryan: Mommy get well soon
Mommy: *happy and contented*….. (nice.. he normally won’t give up his toys for anything)

Starting Ryan on Maths workbook

@ 5 year old 5 days

I started giving Ryan simple math additions sums a few months back. We initially started off with Kumon books which I bought from the bookstores. These books are expensive investments (S$10.90 each). Being kiasu, I bought a whole lot of them, not mainly on addition, but on other activities workbook such as tracing, substraction, ABC, etc…  When Daddy goes for his business trips, he will get more. Recently he bought back two big books of Brain Quest workbooks. Still sitting elephant on the shelf.

Ryan gets bored easily. He’s inpatient and easily lose focus. He said the sums on Kumon books are too easy (straight line single digit addition), so I decided to start him on double digit addition based on sums (pretty easy I would say) for him to work on.

Here are some of his works… (Can’t helped but to frown each time I look at those bad handwriting, careless mistakes… ). I am definitely not destined to be a teacher.

On good days.. the handwriting is readable






So far he’s able to do 3-4 digit double line additions, simple straight single 1-2 digit double line substraction, division 2, identifying even numbers….

On bad days when he decides to get most them REPEATEDLY wrong… Arrghhhh


Anyway.. I brought him to a Enopi Centre near my place. Sat him down and the principal made him do some test. Her comments were… Ryan’s good both basic and critical math. However, he’s a little impatient such as these answers which were written without much thoughts (Ms Tee pointed to some of the dots in square box). He’s at Level 3 but we’ll start with some revision on Level 2 before moving him to Level 3.

Well, well, I have decided to put Ryan at the centre, twice a week, 45 minutes each. It is not so much on improving his math, rather I’m hoping the consistent and focussed 45 minutes will train him to be a more discipline student.

So now the hurdle is to get him to attend class. Before we visited the centre I had pre empted him that her friends are attending Math class…..

Here’s my conversation with Ryan.

Mommy: Do you know GH, C, B are all attending Math class?
Ryan: Mmm.. yes. GH and C goes Enopi, B goes Bmax
Mommy: So do you want to go?
Ryan: Yes Yes
Mommy: I think you can’t
Ryan: Why mommy? I want to go!!! (This son of mine has a problem with taking No for an answer)
Mommy: You have to be good in Math then only they will allow you to attend their class
Ryan: But I am good
Mommy: You have to prove to the teacher. Later, I’m bringing you for a test at the centre. You have to get focused and do well. Is that okay?
Ryan: Okay…

After the test, on our way home

Mommy: So how was the test?
Ryan: It was okay
Mommy: What do you mean?
Ryan: I don’t know…
Mommy: Fine! Everything you don’t know.
Ryan: No Mommy.. No… Teacher said I’m good.
Mommy: OK! (kept silent after that)
Ryan: So mommy, can I go or notttttttt??? Please….
Mommy: Were you good at the test or not?
Ryan: I don’t know..
Mommy: OK.. Teacher said you CAN go .. but you will be evaluated. So you must be good in the class all the time to be able to continue going. You get what I mean?
Ryan: Yes, mommy. I’ll be good.


After awhile of silent (after being in deep thoughts for awhile)

Ryan: Is G, C and B going to the same class or not????
Mommy: No you can’t. They are more advanced.

Ryan is a boy who can only strive when there’s peer pressure. It works well on him. He likes to tell us he wants to be succeesful, he wants to drive a Jeep (yes.. he likes Jeep because it can go off road), bla bla bla… So when he slack on something, we’ll use his friend to motivate him. Most of the time it works.

So we’ll see how he progress in Enopi class after he starts his first lesson next week….